The Divine Design: God’s Plan for Restoration in the Community Setting by Cheryl S. Knight, MS, MTh, and Jo M. Getzinger, MSW

Do you know the difference between a Sunday community and a real community? I had never thought much about this question before reading The Divine Design: God’s Plan for Restoration in the Community Setting. I used to aim for what I thought was real community in my small groups and discipleship, but frankly, real community is difficult to find in the hustle-bustle me-orientation of modern America.

 

The closest I ever experienced to real community was in the singles group God plopped me into my first three years as a Christian. We were together in one form or another almost every day. There was the Sunday teaching and discussion time, the weekly Bible study, the periodic coffee hours, various social events, and individual meals with friends. Ours was a group that focused on authenticity, so I learned Christianity in that type of community. We were an “iron sharpening iron” group. And we grew. I have carried so many of the lessons of those days into the past 40 years of ministry.

But as wonderful as it was, that community was nothing like the one described in The Divine Design: God’s Plan for Restoration in the Community Setting. This book describes the process of building an intentional residential community for severely wounded survivors of ritual abuse and the fruit that has yielded in the lives of so many. Authors Cheryl Knight and Jo Getzinger are the founders and parents of the CARE community in Baldwin, MI. They tell the story of how they got started ministering to survivors, how they were led to settle in Baldwin in an old warehouse and four-bedroom home, and how they learned real community by trial and error.

Theory and Theology

They also discuss in some depth the theoretical/theological approach they use in a community where attachment issues are core. They use The Life Model: Living From the Heart Jesus Gave You as pioneered by James Wilder, Ph.D. and others, which chronicles the developmental tasks we need to complete to become healthy adults. Sadly, even those without severe wounding haven’t completed many of these tasks, so we need others to help identify what is lacking and then provide an environment for achieving these developmental milestones. Knight and Getzinger describe the specific interventional approaches they use in community to help one another grow up into full Christian maturity. Such intervention simply can’t happen on Sunday morning; it requires a New Testament community where the members are as important (or more so) than the paid staff.

This book caused me to reassess my life and my ministry. I had the opportunity in 2003 to not only attend a THRIVE conference where these techniques and skills were taught, but also to spend several days at CARE. I was able to engage in the life of the community as well as sit in on therapy sessions. I saw firsthand that their approach is successful with a population the traditional church tries very hard to ignore and avoid.

The book is peppered with writings from members of the CARE community, both those who have made a life in Baldwin and those who have come through for a season. This lends another note of authenticity to their approach. I seldom see that level of health and self-awareness in most church members. So the question is, does this book have a message for ordinary Christians who don’t live in a residential community? I think so. I found several elements that I intend to implement in my ministry.

Story. Testimony. Theory. This book has it all, woven into a compelling chronicle. I highly recommend it for anyone interested in growing deeper, growing up, or growing in ministry.

(Note: The Divine Design: God’s Plan for Restoration in the Community Setting is only available in Kindle format on Amazon. Order the print version here. Life Model resources are availble here.)

 

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Questioning Evangelism: Engaging People's Hearts the Way Jesus Did by Randy Newman

Questioning Evangelism: Engaging People’s Hearts the Way Jesus Did by Randy Newman

I don’t usually review evangelism books, but Questioning Evangelism: Engaging People’s Hearts the Way Jesus Did intrigued me as it offered a different approach. Randy Newman is a career staff member with Campus Crusade for Christ (now Cru), so engages with a lot of skeptical students in his work. He found that the old “tell them” methods of evangelism were becoming increasingly less effective. Thus, the birth of the questioning approach.

Newman uses a Socratic method of asking questions in dialogue with seekers and skeptics to get them to see the weakness of their own arguments and to move the discussion forward in a permission-based way. He addresses several of the key questions non-Christians have. Then he offers several sample discussions where he asks more questions than he gives answers. The questions are sometimes respectful, sometimes a bit more confrontational. His underlying assumption is that seekers are truly interested in a respectful dialogue, which I think is less likely today than at any point in my lifetime. I could see this approach working a few years ago, but wonder how it would fare on today’s college campuses where controversy is increasingly shunned. I also wonder if I could be as quick in my thinking and responses. It would definitely take some practice.

In addition to the usual evangelistic questions, Newman tackles some tougher subjects like marriage, same-sex attraction, who is going to Hell, and the ever-present excuse of hypocrisy in the church. Unfortunately, in these chapters, he offers more didactic teaching and fewer dialogues.

That being said, I like the book and the approach. It seems more natural and respectful than the Four Spiritual Laws method in which I was trained. This book would be an excellent basis for a small group, especially if in addition to reading and discussing the book, members practiced on one another until the questioning approach became second nature.

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Interpreting Apocalyptic Literature

April 19, 2017 | Comments Off on Interpreting Apocalyptic Literature

Are you planning to lead a study on Daniel or Revelation? Or perhaps some of the prophets who have apocalyptic portions within their pages? If so, Interpreting Apocalyptic Literature: An Exegetical Handbook by Richard A. Taylor might be a good addition to your library.

This book is clearly an academic book. It’s part of the Handbooks for Old Testament Exegesis series, edited by David M. Howard, Jr. and is aimed at folks doing serious exegesis. However, it’s quite readable and doesn’t use an abundance of Hebrew. While it doesn’t transliterate the Hebrew – a weakness in all Kregel Academic books – it does translate the words it uses and probably gives enough information for the lay leader to understand. The book gives an excellent overview of apocalyptic literature – what it is, major themes, interpreting, and proclaiming it. Taylor covers the apocalyptic passages in Daniel, the other prophets, and in extrabiblical texts. While not covering Revelation due to the nature of the series, it’s easy to use the principles based on what he does cover.

Taylor is careful to suggest how to interpret – and how not to interpret – apocalyptic literature. He explains the use of the Hebrew and Aramaic languages, the figures of speech, and several guidelines to interpretation. He argues for a measure of caution in interpreting this literature.

While he focuses primarily on Daniel and to a lesser extent the prophets, one of my favorite sections was his lengthy explanation of 15 extrabiblical Jewish texts. I’ve had very little experience with these, and appreciated his summaries of their content and meanings.

This will remain a good reference book in my library for both apocalyptic literature and the extrabiblical Jewish texts. My thanks to Kregel Academic for the opportunity to review this book.

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Sensitive Preaching to the Sexually Hurting

December 20, 2016 | Comments Off on Sensitive Preaching to the Sexually Hurting

Here’s a topic we don’t see in a lot of books or seminary classrooms – preaching on sexual pain. Dr. Sam Serio (DMin), a Christian counselor, pastor, author, and speaker, is well-equipped to train pastors and teachers on this sensitive topic. Serio estimates that 60 to 80 percent of all adults (sixteen years or older) in our churches are emotionally affected by sexual pain or sin that has been done by them or to them. He’s probably not far off. So why do our seminaries not address this topic? Why do our pastors not teach on it? His premise is that we should and we must. And he provides a powerful template for doing just that.

Serio begins Sensitive Preaching to the Sexually Hurting (Kregel Academic) with an overview of “who’s in your pews.”  Although it may seem extreme, having ministered to the sexually broken for over 30 years, I don’t think he’s exaggerating. You probably have a smaller cross section of broken people in your small group. He speaks of the pain of those who have been affected by casual sex, abortion, sexual assault and rape, childhood sexual abuse and molestation, pornography, same-sex attraction, homosexuality, and even sexless marriage.

Serio then offers suggestions about how to prepare your church to address sexual issues – without losing your job. He then suggests that rather than crafting a whole sermon (or small group lesson) around one sexual issue, that you begin the habit of weaving a paragraph or three into your teaching on a passage so it becomes an ongoing and more natural part of the conversation. And he teaches how to do it with grace and sensitivity rather than condemnation.

Valuable Templates

Perhaps the most valuable part of the book is that he doesn’t simply suggest you ought to talk about these issues. He actually identifies several passages where each topic might fit in naturally and then provides a template for the actual words to say in three to four paragraphs. He suggests how you weave these paragraphs into your sermon or teaching. After reading the book, the concept and tempo of weaving sexual topics into your teaching can become more natural.

If you preach or teach, this is a valuable and timely book. However, it can be heavy when taken in large bites. I suggest no more than a chapter at a time. Maybe less. Especially if you haven’t dealt with your own sexual brokenness. My only criticism is that it becomes a bit redundant, and therefore tedious. However, this is useful for those who select a topic rather than reading the book straight through. All in all, it’s a great resource for your bookshelf.

 

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Thanksgiving Blessings

November 23, 2016 | Comments Off on Thanksgiving Blessings

I’ve been quiet for far too long (more about that soon), but didn’t want to miss the opportunity to wish all of you a blessed Thanksgiving. I’ve come to realize that Thanksgiving is one of my favorite holidays. I love autumn in California. I love the fellowship. I love the food. And I love the reminders to be thankful, both historically and present tense.  Yep, I love Thanksgiving.

I'm thankful for Jesus -- the Light of the World

I’m thankful for Jesus — the Light of the World

We have so much to be thankful for in this nation. We’ve just experienced, or are experiencing, one of the greatest of these – the peaceful transition of government. Sure, it’s been a little rocky this year, but seriously, we still have so many freedoms that are unique both in today’s world and in history. And folks, we have these freedoms because of the blessings of God.

And we have a responsibility to pray for our government – whether we like the players or not. The reality is, some of us have not been happy with the present administration, and some of us will not be happy with the next administration. But if we are Christ-followers, that doesn’t relieve us of the obligation — yes, obligation – to pray for those in authority over us (Rom. 13:1, 1 Tim. 2:1-2) – whether we agree with them or not. It is the prayers of the Church, the prayers of the saints, that will give us a peaceable and quiet life. So may I encourage each of us to pause this Thanksgiving, and every day, to pray for our leaders – outgoing and incoming. To pray for peace in our land. To pray for the electoral process to proceed peaceably as it has for 228 years. To pray that the hidden forces of darkness be hindered. To pray that the Church will move into its God-ordained position in the country.

But most of all, may I encourage each of us to thank God for the privilege of living, here and now. To thank him for the many blessings, tangible and intangible, that we enjoy. To thank him for our nation and the freedoms we enjoy. To thank him — just because…

So friends, enjoy the turkey, the pie, the autumn leaves, and the fellowship. But while you are enjoying, remember to thank our heavenly Father for all of his many blessings.

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It is my pleasure to welcome my friend and mentor, Michael Mack as today’s guest blogger. Mike is the author of  I’m a Leader . . . Now What? How to Guide an Effective Small Group and editor of the Help! Guide series, of which Why Didn’t You Warn Me? How to Deal with Challenging Group Members is a part. He blogs at www.smallgroupleadership.com.

 

You are the Heart of Your Group

You are the Heart of Your Group

 

Jesus’ small group was a mess. It was often dysfunctional. Except for its leader, this leadership training group seemed quite often to lack any observable spiritual leadership potential.

Within two pages in my Bible, Jesus had to:

  • Rebuke his apprentice leader (Mark 8:33). Actually, this verse says he looked at all the disciples as he addressed Peter: “You do not have in mind the things of God, but the things of men.”
  • Deal with Peter, who was missing the bigger vision during their mountaintop experience (9:5-6).
  • Stop an argument between some of his group members and the religious leaders (9:14-16).
  • Rescue his group members when they couldn’t do what he had told them to do (9:18, 25-28).
  • Correct his disciples, who were arguing about which of them was the greatest (9:33-34; also see 10:35-45).

The next time you feel like the tensions and problems in your group are overwhelming, look again at Jesus’ group!

A heart for God, a servant’s heart, humility, compassion—Jesus certainly had those traits, but from all discernible measures, the people in Jesus’ group did not have those qualities. And the worst culprits seem to be the men in Jesus’ core team: Peter, John, and James. We need to remember a vital biblical principle: “The Lord does not look at the things people look at” (1 Samuel 16:7).

Yes, Jesus’ group was a mess and often dysfunctional, but Jesus’ group was healthy. That might seem like an oxymoron, but I don’t believe it is. Jesus understood the principle of process. He did not see only what they were; he saw what they were becoming. And often this process of becoming looks very messy. By the way, this ability to see beyond what other people see in your friends, family, group members, etc., is another key characteristic of a leader after God’s heart. Like Jesus, seek to recognize not only who they are, but what, with God’s power, they can become.

I’ve written a lot about what makes a man or woman a leader after God’s heart. The most vital thing a leader does is spend time with Jesus, staying connected to the Vine (John 15). When you do, all that he is pouring into you will overflow into others. You can lead with Jesus’ love, humility, power, compassion, and commitment—even (or perhaps especially) when you are leading a dysfunctional group or challenging group members—when you abide in him each day. Without him you can do nothing.

Never lead your group alone. Especially when you are leading challenging people, you must have help! First, remember that Christ is with you. Depend on his presence with you, utilize his power in you, and seek his purposes for you. Acknowledge that he is the real leader of this group, and then fulfill your role as a steward leader. Also, share leadership with a core team of 2-3 others who bear with you the responsibility of shepherding, discipleship, caring, and prayer.

One quick word about leading challenging people. Every leader leads imperfect, challenging, sometimes dysfunctional people! As John Ortberg put it, Everyone’s Normal till You Get to Know Them! No leader has the capability on their own to effectively lead such people, which is why we need our all-powerful Savior to strengthen us and the Holy Spirit to lead us. Come to Jesus and he will give you rest.

If your group is a mess—if your group includes a bunch of dysfunctional, sinful, pride-laden, argumentative men and women—don’t give up! Ask God to help you see the process of what your group members are becoming. At the proper time—God’s time—you will reap a harvest if you do not give up!

© Michael C. Mack 2015.

Photo Credit: Glenn Lascuña  (edited)

 

 

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A Commentary on the Psalms (Vol 3)

August 2, 2016 | Comments Off on A Commentary on the Psalms (Vol 3)

A Commentary on The Psalms, Volume 3 (90-150) by Allen P. Ross

A Commentary on The Psalms, Volume 3 (90-150) by Allen P. Ross

As a teacher, trainer, and leader, I love having an excellent library at my fingertips—that way I can write or prep at midnight. Over the years, I’ve been able to build just such a library. Recently I was delighted to add a new commentary: A Commentary on the Psalms: 90-150 (Kregel Exegetical Library) by Allen P. Ross (Kregel Academic, 2016).

Like all of the commentaries in this series, this book is rather academic. It’s designed for pastors, teachers, and serious students of the Bible. Hopefully that includes small group pastors and leaders. But it is probably a little dense for your average group member.

I like the layout of the book, which includes a very readable font size and margins. I also like the organization of the book, which includes five major sections for each Psalm:

INTRODUCTION:

Text and Textual Variants:

This section offers a translation of the Psalm. I could not find any discussion of the translation, but assume it is the translation done by the author. The translations don’t match any of the typical versions I’m familiar with. Textual variants are offered in the footnotes of the translation. I like having them readily available up front, and then out of the way in the heart of the commentary.

Composition and Context:

This is the usual author, date, context, and background found in all commentaries. Ross generally discusses the varying opinions on dating here, and sometimes gives his opinion. But he does offer the opposing views. For the Psalms, this is usually a discussion of whether the Psalm is pre- or post-exilic.

Exegetical Analysis:

Here he offers a brief summary and outline. It’s brief and to the point.

COMMENTARY IN EXPOSITORY FORM

This is the heart of each section, with a quite academic discussion of each verse or syncope. He covers the pertinent points without belaboring them as some commentators do. My only criticism of the book is in this section (and it is common to all books in the series). He uses the Hebrew words without transliteration. My Hebrew is rusty enough that I would love to see the transliteration, and perhaps the transliterated root. The same is true when he provides the Greek from the Septuagint – no transliterations.

MESSAGE AND APPLICATION:

This section is usually less than a page, but suggests the key principal in the Psalm and how we might apply it. This section will be useful to leaders.

Overall, I like this series, and A Commentary on the Psalms: 90-150 (Kregel Exegetical Library) is no exception. If you are studying Psalms 90-150, this book will be a good addition to your library.

 

 

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Baby Boomers: A Complex Generation (Pt. 4)

August 1, 2016 | Comments Off on Baby Boomers: A Complex Generation (Pt. 4)

Boomers Are Social Folks

Boomers Are Social Folks

They are not religious.

A 1993 Time magazine article reported that about 42 percent of baby boomers were dropouts from formal religion, a third had never strayed from church, and one-fourth of boomers were returning to religious practice. However, Richard Ostling notes that the boomers returning to religion are “usually less tied to tradition and less dependable as church members than the loyalists. They are also more liberal, which deepens rifts over issues like abortion and homosexuality.”

They are looking for ways to matter.

Boomers are often people on a mission. They want to matter and to contribute. If not consumed with additional years of work and/or care giving, this may take the form of a second career, a transition to a mission or non-profit, or simply a new focus on ministry within their local church or civic organization. Many are beginning to look at leaving a legacy to their children and grandchildren. They are becoming more intentional about the lives they lead and the values they communicate. This makes them ripe for meaningful positions in the church or parachurch organizations.

Small Groups with Boomers

As a small-group leader, you may find that baby boomers are unpredictable. If they’re involved in caring for children or parents, they may miss group regularly. They also travel a lot—for work, missions trips, or leisure—which also adds to absences.

On the other hand, many boomers are mature Christians. You can and should handle more difficult material with them. Unfortunately, this maturity can sometimes lead to a cynicism or boredom. You’ll need to find a way to make material fresh and relevant to keep them engaged.

Some boomers can be a little shallow, so leaders will need to draw them out. While they might have been willing to tackle the deeper issues of life when they were younger, there seems to be a tendency to stay on the surface now. They may share their kids’ and parents’ struggles, but often not their own. It’s hard to get boomers to delve into the deeper issues of marriage, faith, finances, and theology, but it’s possible.

Whatever you do, stay flexible and willing to listen. Listen to the boomers, and listen to the Holy Spirit. Together you’ll learn a lot.

See Post 1 here, Post 2 here, and Post 3 here.

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Boomers are Caregivers

Boomers are Caregivers

(This is Part 3. See Part 1 here and Part 2 here)

They are caregivers, often stressed and “smooshed.”

Baby Boomers may have completed their child-rearing responsibilities, but many are now taking care of grandchildren. In 2008, 2.6 million Boomer grandparents were raising their grandchildren, while many more help with childcare so their adult children can work. This has an enormous impact on the Boomers’ incomes and social relationships, as well as their health.

Largely because of the economy, and perhaps skills and values that weren’t communicated well to their children, many Boomers provide housing and resources for their “boomerang” children—those who return home after college or remain home after high school. Often these boomerangs come with their own children. The number of 26-year-olds living with parents has jumped almost 46 percent since 2007. In 2010, the number of 18- to 30-year-olds living with their parents grew to 20.7 million, a 3.9 percent gain in one year. This means that about a quarter of American adults between the ages of 18 and 30 now live with parents, while intergenerational households have reached the highest level in more than 50 years. The largest group of those moving back home is college graduates entering the worst jobs market since the Great Depression. Some 85 percent of those graduates, after four years of higher education, are left with little more than a worthless piece of paper and no hope. While Boomer parents may or may not welcome this return, they feel they have little choice.

Thirteen million Boomers are also involved in the care of their parents. For many this is from afar, while 25 percent of those parents live in the home of a Boomer offspring. As their parents age, this responsibility increases and often comes with emergencies. If they are fortunate, parent care comes after their children are launched, but increasingly, Boomers are caring for both parents and children at the same time, creating what is known as the Sandwich Generation. Especially if they are still working, these Boomers are truly smooshed.

Because of the combination of care giving and financial stressors, many Boomers are postponing retirement or looking at a retirement that is different from what they anticipated. Resources that had been targeted for travel or leisure now are needed for everyday living, for parents, or for adult children and grandchildren.

See Part 1 and Part 2.

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Baby Boomers: A Complex Generation (Pt. 2)

July 27, 2016 | Comments Off on Baby Boomers: A Complex Generation (Pt. 2)

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Boomers: The Fittest Generation to Date

(This is Part 2. See Part 1 here).

What are some characteristics that define Baby Boomers?

They are the fittest generation.

As they’ve passed each decade milestone, they’ve challenged it. Today, as the oldest Boomers reach beyond their mid-60s, many claim that 60 is the new 40. Indeed, because of an immense emphasis on fitness, many Boomers are healthier and younger-looking than their parents were at this age. On the other hand, one third of Boomers are defined as obese, and one third are defined as overweight, leading to an increase in heart disease, stroke, and cancer. Despite this, Boomers have a longer life expectancy than their parents, which leads to complex questions about retirement.

They were changed by the women’s movement.

Boomers have been successful in work, enhanced by the women’s movement that came to prominence as they were entering the workforce. This resulted in many women attaining career goals not even considered by their parents. But it also came at a huge cost to families. Both because of opportunity and increased cost of living (especially the increasing tax burden), two-income families became the norm, leaving children to fend for themselves. Middle class families were often able to patch together a series of after school activities that doubled as childcare. Lower income families often left children unattended, or attended by the TV. Families began to look upon the school system as responsible for their children during the working hours, complaining when the schools were not available.

They are financially powerful, stressed, and stretched.

Boomers have generally enjoyed higher incomes and higher standards of living than their parents. Currently in their peak earning years, American baby Boomers control over 80 percent of all personal financial assets and more than 50 percent of discretionary spending power. They are responsible for more than half of all consumer spending, and 80 percent of all leisure travel. In 2005, Boomers had over $2 trillion in disposable income.

While this has had advantages, it has also led to the lowest level of personal savings and the highest level of consumer debt. While Boomers now have healthy incomes and spend a great deal of money, they’re not saving as much as they should, so their retirement income will be less stable than that of previous generations. Therefore, most were not prepared for the economic decline starting in 2008. Sixty percent of those who had savings and retirement accounts saw a 40 percent loss in their portfolios in 2008, throwing their retirement planning into chaos and causing over 40 percent of Boomers to delay retirement. The concurrent mortgage crisis resulted in many Boomers losing their homes, or at least facing serious financial challenges. Older Boomers are moving into retirement years with great uncertainty.

A 2011 survey found that 25 percent of baby Boomers still working said they’d never be able to retire and 42 percent are delaying retirement plans. Moreover, nearly 60 percent said their workplace retirement plans, personal investments, or real estate lost value during the economic crisis.

Boomers are also facing a health care crisis, a Social Security crisis, and an increased need for long-term care. By the year 2020, the population of Americans over age 65 will increase to 53 million. (In 1997, there were only 34 million.) By 2030, the Boomers will be ages 66–84 and will make up 20 percent of the total population, which will have a huge impact on spending and health care costs. Sixty-nine percent of those over 65 will require some long-term care before they die.

See Part 1 Here:

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